Relationship Self-Awareness Test

Based on Activate Your Self-awareness Workbook – Gerald Crawford (2024)

Instructions:

Answer each question honestly on a scale of 1–10
(1 = Not at all true, 10 = Completely true)

The 10 Questions

1. Self-Awareness

How aware am I of my own thoughts, emotions, and behaviors within the relationship?

2. Emotional Control

When triggered, how well do I manage my emotions instead of reacting impulsively?

3. Responsibility

Do I take responsibility for my actions, or do I mostly blame my partner?

4. Communication

How clearly and honestly do I express my feelings and needs?

5. Listening

Do I truly listen to understand my partner, or do I listen to respond?

6. Triggers

How well do I understand what triggers me and why?

7. Patterns

Am I aware of repeated negative patterns in our relationship—and my role in them?

8. Empathy

How well do I try to understand my partner’s perspective and emotions?

9. Effort & Growth

Am I actively working on myself to improve the relationship?

10. Connection

Do I consistently show appreciation, care, and emotional presence toward my partner?

Scoring Your Results

Add your total score (out of 100)

0–40: Disconnected & Unaware

There is a significant lack of awareness and emotional connection.
Focus on self-awareness and emotional responsibility first.

41–70: Inconsistent & Reactive

There is effort, but patterns and reactions still dominate.
Focus on communication and emotional triggers.

71–85: Growing & Improving

You are becoming more aware and intentional.
Continue building consistency and deeper understanding.

86–100: Conscious & Connected

You are operating at a high level of awareness and relationship maturity.
Maintain and deepen your connection.

Final Reflection

Complete this honestly:

  • The biggest thing I need to improve is: __________
  • One behavior I will change starting today: __________
  • One thing I appreciate about my partner: __________

Closing Insight

Your relationship will only grow
to the level of your awareness.

When you change how you show up…
everything begins to change.

Remember:

A better relationship starts with a more aware version of you.